I am 20 weeks, so technically I am halfway through this pregnancy. But, looking at this whole process, I am much closer to the finish then the start. Looking back, the process started last Oct/Nov when I met the intended parents and then the first transfer which was the beginning of January a whole 12 months before our expected due date. So, 20 more weeks (maybe a little less if history proves to repeat itself) and this whole surrogacy thing will be complete. It has been a crazy journey so far and I am excited to see how it will end, especially looking forward to that day in January that I get to hand the parents their new baby girl!
I am still feeling great but tired again...but I think that has more to do with the fact that I have to get up super early, like 5 am early, to get my workouts in before the kids are up and our crazy morning begins. I know, I know, I need my sleep, but I am not a happy person either if I don't get my exercise, so I am just realizing that I am having to go to bed a whole lot earlier, 9:00!
My belly is growing and I am starting to get the "when are you due" question a whole lot more. I am getting more used to the question and therefor am getting better at the answer, "late January, but I am a surrogate so it is not mine". Not sure why I feel the need to tell people this right off but it is all I can say when asked! Before my instinct was to just say "it's not mine" before answering their questions:) Of course, these questions always start the surrogate conversation but I don't mind, maybe my decision to do this will get someone else to help another family in need!
I have yet to get out my maternity clothes, but they will be making an appearance in my closet this weekend (haven't come down also due to the 75 pound box they are in and I have to remember to ask my husband when he is home!) I am surviving on my knit skirts and elastic waisted shorts which are a part of my regular wardrobe. My regular shirts also still fit so all is well there, I won't be wearing maternity shirts for a little bit anyway since I don't want to draw attention to my growing belly:)
19.5 weeks to go, the count DOWN is on!
Wednesday, September 12, 2012
Tuesday, September 4, 2012
Told the kids
So we finally decided it was time to tell the kids what we are doing. I had decided earlier in the weekend to tell them Monday night (since we had my brother in law here all weekend) and it could not have been better timed! On Monday morning we decided to take a break from the pool and go play putt-putt instead. There was another prego (probably a few weeks ahead of me) playing at the same time. When we got in the car we made a comment or two about her belly being a little bigger then mine and Maddox proceeds to say "but she has a baby in hers". Ouch, but I guess why would he think otherwise when I have not said anything to him about it!
We told them at dinner by reminding them of the intended parent's other child (to make sure they knew who we were talking about) and telling them that since his mommy could not grow a baby I am doing it for them. That I did have a baby in my belly, but it was not our baby, it was his little sister and when she is born she will go and live with them. It was interesting to see how the 3 and 5 year olds processed it differently. My 3 year old was instantly intrigued that there was a baby in my belly and kept touching it while my 5 year old was a little quieter and I could tell he was trying to process everything. We stressed that it was not our baby and would never come home with us. They both seemed to do a great job with understanding this situation and later in the night both made mention to this being someone else's little sister. They did want to know if they could name the baby to which we obviously had to say "no":) I have a feeling it will have a nickname soon though, hopefully something better then Baby Croc which was what my last child was called in utero.
As for me, my belly is growing by leaps and bounds! I can not "hide" this pregnancy anymore! This was also a tough week weight wise as I gained 4 pounds. Pregnant or not, that is a tough increase to see on the scale in a weeks time!
Just under 21 weeks to go!!
We told them at dinner by reminding them of the intended parent's other child (to make sure they knew who we were talking about) and telling them that since his mommy could not grow a baby I am doing it for them. That I did have a baby in my belly, but it was not our baby, it was his little sister and when she is born she will go and live with them. It was interesting to see how the 3 and 5 year olds processed it differently. My 3 year old was instantly intrigued that there was a baby in my belly and kept touching it while my 5 year old was a little quieter and I could tell he was trying to process everything. We stressed that it was not our baby and would never come home with us. They both seemed to do a great job with understanding this situation and later in the night both made mention to this being someone else's little sister. They did want to know if they could name the baby to which we obviously had to say "no":) I have a feeling it will have a nickname soon though, hopefully something better then Baby Croc which was what my last child was called in utero.
As for me, my belly is growing by leaps and bounds! I can not "hide" this pregnancy anymore! This was also a tough week weight wise as I gained 4 pounds. Pregnant or not, that is a tough increase to see on the scale in a weeks time!
Just under 21 weeks to go!!
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